One of the biggest questions that we have is how is Coco dealing with the new arrival? Leading up to the birth, somedays she was brimming with excitement, and other days she didn't want her to come. Coco loves babies. She rarely leaves the house without a doll tucked under her arm and if she sees a stroller accross the street, she will want to cross over to see if there is a baby inside. She can also be very maternal with younger children. All of these are great signs.
The day that Kiki was born, Jenny, our Nanny, woke Coco up from her nap by saying, "Come on Coco, lets go see Kiki!" Normally, Coco would be groggy and a little cranky for half an hour after her nap, but she bounded out of bed with excitement. On the car ride over to the hospital, Jenny explained that her Daddy and Papi would also be Kiki's Daddy and Papi and that Kiki was coming home with us. Coco said, "no, Kiki has Kira". Uh oh...all the explaination has not seemed to sink in. Jenny corrected her and she seems completely happy sharing her Daddy and Papi with Kiki.
Coco can not get enough of the park. She would be there all day playing if she could. Now that Kiki is here, she wants to be home with her. Yesterday we went on an adventure to take her to her favorite park on Robertson in West Hollywood. When we got there, she said, "I want to go home and see Kiki!"
Welcome Kiki!!! Our lovely daughter arrived at 1:26 pm on Wednesday May 2nd at Los Robles Hospital in Thousand Oaks California.
Here we are waiting for the doctor. He was about 30 minutes late, but we forgave him...fortunately we didn't have somewhere more important that we needed to go. Kiki weighted in 8 pounds 1 ounce and was 20 inches long. Her head was a little over 14 inches which was off the chart in terms of the percentile (good thing she was C section)!
This is Kiki's Rocky Balboa pose - Free at last!!
Giddy Daddies at the warming table about 30 minutes after Kiki was born.
With less than 24 hours before
the scheduled birth of our second daughter Kiki, I thought it might be
interesting to try to describe what is going through my head right now.It is a lovely mixture of fear, excitement,
elation, anxiety and anticipation which eliminates any hope of a good night sleep
and does a number on the digestive tract.When we were anxiously waiting for Coco to be born, our friends Scott
and Ron used to tell us, “just enjoy the feelings of uncertainty and mystery as
you sit at a major crossroads in your life”.Definitely not what I wanted to hear at the time, yet sage advice
nonetheless.This may be the last time
in my life I am feeling this, so I might as well enjoy it.
The feeling of being past the 38th
week of pregnancy feels a bit like the week before Christmas when I was 8 years
old, times 10.There is so much
anticipation that I could implode.I
remember being a kid and wishing that I could magically transport to the
morning that Santa arrives.Over the
years I learned to just not focus on it, because I could drive myself
crazy.I am channeling those tools a lot
The difference between Xmas and
pregnancy is that the latter can come at any moment; it is not a fixed date.So I need to not obsess over the due date,
lest I go insane, but at the same time, I need to ready to rush to the
hospital at a moment’s notice.I used to
pray that I not get the call at 4pm in the afternoon and need to battle the 405
traffic during rush hour.It could take
three hours to get from Century City to Thousand Oaks at that time.
The other difference with Xmas is
that we are not unwrapping a present that we will forget about 6 months from
opening it, we are going to meet our daughter, who will be one of the most
important people in our lives!! So many unanswered questions:
·Will she be healthy?
·Will there be complications to the delivery?
·What is she going to look like? (she is going to
be a mixture of three different races and could have a wide variety of physical
·What is her personality going to be like? Will she and Coco get along?
·Are we ready for this?
·Will she discover the cure for cancer?The first female president of the US?
I can’t imagine what it must be
like to be a woman giving birth through all of this.They probably have all of the above emotions
plus need to worry about pushing an 8 pound bowling ball through their crotch.
Experiencing a birth and the
anxiety leading up to it are one of the true joys of life…but I am ready to be
on the other side of this and meet our precious little Kiki!
Last Friday we had our 37 week doctor's appointment. We had previously been told that Kiki had flipped over and was head down, but when they did the ultrasound, it was clear that she was still head up.
The doctor referred us to a specialist nearby who might be able to help Kiki turn head down. After examining Kira and taking this fabulous ultrasound pic on the left, the doctor said would not do the procedure becuase the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck twice. He mentioned that it is very unlikely that Kiki would turn and that we would need to do a C-Section.
We spoke to our doctor and he mentioned that he would like to conduct the C-Section at exactly 39 weeks, which is next Tuesday, May 1!! Just one week left until we get to meet Kiki (assuming Kira does not go into labor before that) and squeeze those chunky cheeks!
Kira is all ready for the embryos! Where's the doctor?
Home Pregnancy Tests (HPTs)
Well, lots of people in the surrogacy industry (doctors, & agencies) don't like HPTs. There is a chance that a HPT can indicate a false positive so blood tests are the best means of verifying pregnancy. That said, the 2 week wait between the embryo transfer and the blood test, is excruciating so many IPs (intended parents) and surrogates rely on HPTs to get some clue as to whether they are pregnant or not. HPTs can detect HCG (the pregnancy hormone) fairly early on, often several days before the surrogates missed period. 4 days after the transfer of our 6-day old embryos, our surrogate took a HPT and got a positive. As she has gone further along, the tests have gotten darker (that's good!). In the pictures, the control line is on the right and the pregnancy indicator line is on the left.
HPTs: 5/26, 5/27 & 5/28
HPTs getting darker...5, 6 & 7 days after transfer
HPTs: 5/29, 5/30 & 5/31
16 was taken just before our first beta test - beta was 305!
HPTs: 6/2 & 6/4
18 was taken the day of our 2nd beta test - beta was 985!
Chris, Kira & Victor after dinner
We had a great dinner at Cafe Firenze on April 2nd
We are two Dads documenting life with our wonderful daughters, Coco and Kiki and our two super cool dogs: Shih Tzu, NeNe and terrier poodle mix Snowball. This is going to be the adventure of a lifetime and we invite you to share it with us!