A friend of mine (Mac Robinson), who I've known for over 15 years sent me this wonderful note. The note is so touching and honest. It's amazing how many of our friends have shared their stories, thoughts and experiences with us along this journey. Each email, phone call, card, etc. have meant so much to us and really helped us to grasp (as much as we can at this point) the magnitude of what we are on the cusp of experiencing. Thanks for the wonderful note Mac!
Here's the note Mac sent (BTW, not a typo...Mac and many of my friends from Virginia call me Victro!):
Well Victro you are on the cusp of the most amazing event you will ever to be lucky enough to witness and be a part of. I never realized how miniscule the crap in my life was until Zac came into the world, screaming, crying and peeing all over the doctors as Al Green played in the background ("its 3 o' clock in the morning...well...."). They wiped him off and weighed him. He got his shots and he was screaming and I finally stopped jumping around and went close to his ear and said, "it’s ok buddy, we are gonna take care of you." He stopped crying and looked through the goop they put in his eyes and stared at me for a moment and then went back to screaming and peeing. It was in that moment of him staring at me that I realized my life as I knew it was over and I had bigger things to do. It was exhilarating and frightening all at the same time. Then they handed him to me and I just about lost my legs. Such a feeling that this little helpless child was now in my care. I took him to see his Mom, he was crying again but as soon as she spoke he got quiet and looked, then closed his eyes and slept. He was at peace. I sat there with him in my arms and Z stroking his forehead and had a feeling of what idiots we were to think we could do this, but mostly I really truly felt love for the first time. It was such a relief and so free and so unconditional. This was all reinforced when Max came, as he was attempting to literally leap into the world and was screaming as Al Green played in the background (eerie but true). I am very happy that soon you too will get the opportunity to feel it. It is like nothing you have ever had and even if you have another, you will never have it again. I call it "the reason." That is the reason for love, hate, protection, art, science, religion, war, freedom, passion, excellence, whatever...everything. I love ya buddy. Enjoy. Your friend always, Mac
So many questions, so few answers! LOL! We are so lucky to have so many friends and family members interested in all things Coco. We are in the home stretch and know that we'll be holding our little girl VERY SOON!
Yesterday (Sunday, January 31st), we spent the day with Kira and our friends Robin & Alexis. We had lunch at Caioti in Studio City, home of the famous "labor inducing salad" but so far, no such luck for us from the renowned salad! After that we took Kira to have a 90-minute reflexology & "faceology" session. All Kira seems to have gotten from that is a sore head from the practitioner banging stones on top of her head and sore ears from her talking to Kira so much during the session! LOL!
Kira did lose her mucous plug yesterday and had the "bloody show" so it can't be long now. Losing the mucous plug isn't the best indicator that labor is imminent, however, the bloody show usually means labor is just around the corner (usually about 48-hours) because it indicates that the cervix is beginning to efface (thin out). We will certainly see!
If Coco isn't born by Wednesday night, Kira will be induced on Thursday morning. Stay tuned!
Kira is all ready for the embryos! Where's the doctor?
Home Pregnancy Tests (HPTs)
Well, lots of people in the surrogacy industry (doctors, & agencies) don't like HPTs. There is a chance that a HPT can indicate a false positive so blood tests are the best means of verifying pregnancy. That said, the 2 week wait between the embryo transfer and the blood test, is excruciating so many IPs (intended parents) and surrogates rely on HPTs to get some clue as to whether they are pregnant or not. HPTs can detect HCG (the pregnancy hormone) fairly early on, often several days before the surrogates missed period. 4 days after the transfer of our 6-day old embryos, our surrogate took a HPT and got a positive. As she has gone further along, the tests have gotten darker (that's good!). In the pictures, the control line is on the right and the pregnancy indicator line is on the left.
HPTs: 5/26, 5/27 & 5/28
HPTs getting darker...5, 6 & 7 days after transfer
HPTs: 5/29, 5/30 & 5/31
16 was taken just before our first beta test - beta was 305!
HPTs: 6/2 & 6/4
18 was taken the day of our 2nd beta test - beta was 985!
Chris, Kira & Victor after dinner
We had a great dinner at Cafe Firenze on April 2nd
We are two Dads documenting life with our wonderful daughters, Coco and Kiki and our two super cool dogs: Shih Tzu, NeNe and terrier poodle mix Snowball. This is going to be the adventure of a lifetime and we invite you to share it with us!